I am not talking about being grossly neglectful, or abusive, as far as we are willing to admit anyway! Seriously though, it occurred to me that we are not giving fair attention time to Haylee in the form of photos, video recordings, or anything else that made us such proud parents with the other two. Is this normal? Let me cite a few examples. For one, When Tierra rolled over, we photo-documented every aspect of it, called relatives, passed out cigars and so on. It was such a milestone. Same for when she walked, said the first word and on and on. You get the point right? 
Our digital video footage of Tierra and even of Eli is enough to make several documentaries. 
A little before Haylee was born, our video camera gave up the ghost, and to us it was no big deal. 
So I was thinking just today about this and I had a terrible revelation set years from now when Haylee is old enough to understand, and I have to answer the hard question of, "Dad? Mom? Why aren't there many videos of me when I was a baby. I am tired of Tierra always showing us stuff from when she was a baby!" Then I will have to make up a story about a tragic natural disaster that destroyed all her records and there was nothing we could do and so on!! Are we normal here? Have you other parents with three kids or more done the same thing to your later children? I am not saying the excitement has worn off or anything, but we have not put as much importance on it like we did with Tierra and Eli. We took pictures of everything with those two, as mentioned above. I feel like a bad dad all of the sudden.
I also feel like an awful parent because summer came and went and we did not do something "big" with the family. Nearly every summer of my life is filled with some huge memory or something that really defined summer.
My family always did at least one thing, and usually multiple. That is what made summer so hard to let go of, right? My kids are probably the only ones looking forward to starting school because at least they get to do something.
So all this being said, I threw in a few pictures that I found on the camera. Not much rhyme or reason to any of them, but I know how pictures make a post better than just having the words here. I love the one of Rebecca and Haylee on the Log Flume though.
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It's called being busier. give yourselves a break. More kids = less time for each. We have been the same with Neve. In our house it will be "why is sam in all the videos" and we will just have to say "he's just funnier than you guys".
the funny thing is that I appreciate my babies more with each one yet document less. I'm just glad at least blogs exist or I would really be in trouble.
Chad, it's called the "Post-It-Note-Syndrome." The first baby gets all the glory on paper, in photos, and in video. The second baby gets a few major milestones jotted down with an occasional photo taken. The third, and any other subsequent babies, get a post-it note to prove they were there. (My father-in-law has this theory on a comic strip)
We have followed the same pattern with our 3 kids. So, it seems normal to me. I am afraid to open the girls baby books because I will have to come to terms with how empty they are. And let's be honest, I can't remember what I had for lunch yesterday, let alone when Mia's first tooth errupted.
Noah, on the other hand, could have his biography accurately written by a total stranger, as long as they had all of our documentation on hand.
Just wait until you are packing school lunches for the older two and Haylee freaks out because she wants a fruit snack, and because she is a 3rd, and even though it is only 7:30am, you give them to her and don't even feel bad!
I looked at all the pictures but the post was too long to read.
Fair enough Aimee, fair enough.
Hey Chad! Cute pictures. No worries about not obsessing over your THIRD child! I'm impressed that you were so good about documenting your second!! It's no longer a novelty - totally normal. Also, don't worry about not doing much this summer! You've been to Disneyland enough times to easily make up for it. Also, sometimes the best moments are just being at home. Kids don't REALLY care about doing something big...until they're teenagers, of course! They just want your time and attention. Love ya! Lora
I am glad it just not me. I am usually so good. I feel good that this one gets out of his PJ's on a daily basis!
We just do our best, right? And our best by kid #3 is much different than our best with kid #1. Don't be too hard on yourselves.
P.s. we'll be at Disneyland from Oct 19-24.
I think that is why the baby of the family is spoiled, the guilt felt by the parents of the realization they didn't take any pictures. I feel that guilt already, it's a shame. I agree with April, the blogging thing has made me be more "outgoing" with the camera.
I think Haylee and Sunne look related, but I guess they are!
Angie, I think they have the same father.... but that's unconfirmed....
well Matt is a wild child!!!
That could be said for lots of different Matts huh?
Is her name pronounced like Sunny or Sue-nee? I always wonder that.
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